So far in this series we’ve talked about figuring out which elements in your home make you feel good and knowing why, defining our home decor style, and we dove into the process of making sure that our spouse’s style is also reflected in our space. Compromise is never easy, but they say it is necessary.
So now you’re at the point where you are more in tune with the elements of style that are going to show up in your space, but are probably wondering how on earth they are going to work together to create a space that feels like it was done on purpose.
Not to worry cause today we are going to talk about how to mix those styles together in a way that makes sense.
(And just FYI, if finding your style and really understanding how to create a cohesive look in your home is something that you really want to learn to do, enrollment for my course, Style Your Way Home is now open for enrollment. You can check out the details of the course right here.)
If you aren’t up to speed you can catch up on week 1 and week 2 below..
I’m pretty sure that this is the most anticipated week because one of the statements I hear all the time is
I have a lot of stuff that doesn’t match.
My husband and I have completely different taste.
Matching is not essential to beautiful home decor, in fact it is down right boring.
So stop stressing about having things match and let’s come up with some clever ways to make the things you love work well together to create a beautiful layered and interesting home that reflects who you (guys) are and tells your story!
If you take away anything from this entire series, I want it to be this…
It is possible to have more than one style present in a home and actually it is really important to do so because it creates a ton of interest and ends up telling the story of everyone who lives there.
If you love florals and the hubs loves texture, you have to find a way to weave the two together in a way that makes sense and doesn’t make one person feel like they are living in someone else’s home. Hard to do, I know. Especially when your style is far superior to your spouse’s -kidding, maybe not.
How to blend more than one decorating style.
First let’s talk about a few go to “rules” that will help you along. -But keep in mind, any decorating rule, can be broken.
If you are anything like me, you want to play it safe to some extent. Since in the real world there are things like budgets and livability to consider -we are not preparing for a magazine photo shoot here. But since we care a lot about our home and the decor that essentially tells our story, we want it to be unique to us and our families. Am I right?
In other words, we are looking for ways to bring it all together in an interesting way, or take it up a notch to make it feel perfectly us.
These rules will help you get there because they embrace the idea that not everything has to match.
The 80/20 rule
That is a ratio rule and it is a perfect place to start. It pretty much means that you need to choose a main character and a supporting character. And in this case those characters are the styles you are after.
Remember last week when we took the style we had discovered and turned it into a definition? We had a feeling and then 2 (very broad) styles in our definition.
Those will be your 80 and your 20. The main style will be represented in 80% of the space, and the other 20% will be the other style.
I suggest that you start by looking at the big ticket or larger items in the room (the ones that would be hard to replace) and let those be your 80%.
For example. My home decor style definition is comfortable-modern-traditional. So for the larger ticket items in my home I’m going to look for elements of modern.
This makes total sense in my home.
As I’ve been writing this series, I’ve also been working on refreshing my family room to reflect more of my ever evolving style… let’s take a look as an example.
In my family room my sofa and the occasional chair have square arms (clean lines,) the rug has a lot of geometric pattern, and the coffee table is even a mid-century modern remake. The colors are mostly grey and a muted blue with just a few pops of color here and there.
The traditional elements come in with the floor to ceiling curtain panels, a lot of white painted furniture and cabinetry with just a little bit of detail on the doors. I also have a good amount of accessories (which super modern homes don’t have) but most of them have an element of geometric and clean lines.
I’ve had my home decor described to me by friends as modern, but not cold. Perfect!
That is exactly what I’m going for! About 80% of the space has modern elements and the other 20% (the part that warms it up and makes it feel comfortable) hints at traditional decor.
Group Like Items: different but the same is key
I grew up in the 80’s. On any given day my hair scrunchie matched my colored jean shorts, which matched my keds. My mom (who has amazing taste) had a floral couch and love seat in our front room and a valance over the windows in the exact same print.
The 80’s made us think that everything had to match. But it doesn’t.
Predictable is out and so is being too matchy-matchy. Things don’t need to match, they need to go and they can go together in a lot of different ways.
A great way to tie unlike items together is by finding something they do have in common and grouping them together. You can group things by color, size, and texture and by displaying them together you create a collection -which has more impact and makes more sense than if each item was displayed on its own. This works especially well with small items.
1- Items on a dresser can often be a bit random, but keeping them all the same color makes it look like everything goes together.
2- This coffee table is perfect. Everything is unified by height. Even the smaller items relate because they are placed on top of the stacked books.
3- Each shelf on the back wall is styled individually. The top shelf has larger items, on the middle shelf everything is about the same size and clear glass, and on the bottom shelf items are grouped together too.
If you have a collection, instead of spreading the collection throughout the room, group them together for bigger impact.
Balance needs to happen in a few different ways.
First your space needs to have equally distributed visual weight. For example, in the image below this open concept room is separated by the sofa. The visual weight of the book shelf in the dining area is balanced by the wall art in the living room area.
You also need to have the style balanced throughout your space.
If hubby is into rustic and you have him put all of his nods to rustic decor in one area of the room, it is not going to blend into the room well. Instead if you have those rustic items placed throughout the room (or in at least 2 places,) the space will feel balanced and the decor will come across as intentional.
Think of it this way. Everything in your room needs a buddy.
Look at this fabulous living room (below) designed by the amazing Emily Henderson and her team.
What I like about this space is that someone actually lives here. Notice how your eye bounces around the room so easily. Nothing matches per se, but it all goes together so well and feels cozy and like it has evolved.
Everything has a buddy.
- the wood tone on the side table is repeated on the coffee table tray and ties into the dining room chairs.
- The color of the side chair goes with the pillow and the lamp shade.
- The frames don’t match, but they each have a buddy that shares their color.
- The darker blue is on the throw, the dining chairs, and in the painting.
- The shape and size of the sofa and the side chair are the same.
mixing styles in your room
1. Start with neutrals.
Think of the large pieces in your space as the canvas that is going to showcase the story you are about to tell. Painting your walls a nice neutral and keeping the large pieces of furniture a neutral color (even if they have an element of style to them) will allow the other styles in your room to be showcased. Think of it as lessening the competition.
These large pieces will also most likely dictate your main style. For example if your largest furniture piece has elements of modern decor (like square arms) you will want to carry that style throughout by adding other modern elements.
2. Place your furniture first.
Start with the largest pieces and like we discussed earlier, keep in mind the rules of visual weight and scale.
For example if you are decorating your bedroom and don’t have matching nightstands, use different pieces on each side, but be sure they are of similar size.
The same rule applies to non matching end tables. In the example below they not only kept the scale the same, but also matched the shape.
In fact this room repeats the idea of visual balance with the lamps and the coffee table decor.
The lamps are different, but they are about the same height and have similar shaped shades.
The coffee table has the rounded flower arrangement which is balanced out by the gold decorative object.
Keep in mind as you play with balance though that traditional decor calls for a lot of symmetry, while modern decor often is asymmetrical.
3. Add in your accessories and details.
The hardest thing when it comes to mixing styles is probably when it comes to the accessories. Remember the rule, different but the same and group things together accordingly.
Mix the styles evenly throughout the room.
The best way to draw too much attention to one style is to group too many things of that style together. It throws everything off balance. Insetad split up your items and distribute them evenly throughtout the space.
Repetition is key.
To make sense of an item that may stand out like a sore thumb, repeat an element of that item in at least one other place in the room. (The buddy system we talked about earlier.)
For example, if you have a painting that has way more color than anything else in the space, try adding just a few minor touches of one of the main colors in other areas of the room to tie it all together and make it blend into the room. (Like the Emily Henderson living room above.)
4. Let the Odd Ball Be The Focal Point
If you have one element that is staying but doesn’t have anything in common with anything else in the space, make it a focal point and instead of competing, it will stand alone.
A perfect example would be a light fixture that is a different color or finish than anything else in the room, or maybe it is really big and much bigger in scale than the other elements you have going on in the room. That’s ok. Hang it up and let it be the show stopper!
Before we go, let’s look at a few rooms that do all of this mixing really well…
This room has both traditional and rustic elements and it looks really pulled together.
- Even though there are different things on either side of the fireplace they are about the same size, the art balances out the TV, and the lamps are the same.
- The sofas don’t match, but they are similar in color and size.
- The raw wood is repeated on the coffee table and above the fireplace.
In this more formal living room there are elements of modern and traditional.
- Traditional decor is usually very symmetrical, which this room is. Same cabinets on either side of the fireplace, matching sofas that face each other, and even the same branches in a vase flanking the fire place.
- The clean lines of the sofas and the coffee table are a modern element.
- The shots of high contrast black and white are modern, but pulling in the muted neutrals of greige make it more traditional.
- The chandelier is a definite focal point and marries the 2 styles perfectly.
I absolutely love this modern traditional kitchen!
The traditional elements like the crown molding on the cabinets, and the tufting on the sofa and the bench seat are so beautiful and play perfectly with the modern elements like the clear stools, the table, and the poppy colors.
Hopefully you have a better understanding of your decorating style and what to start looking for when searching for inspiration so that you can start blending your home decor styles in a more intentional way.